Perez Hilton v. Will.i.am
I know… of all things to be posting about, this is ridiculous. But I think there is something important here.
Perez Hilton posted a video today about the alleged beating he took by the BlackEyed Peas manager, Polo, last night in Toronto after a verbal confrontation with Will.i.am. Will.i.am has also posted a video at Dipdive to explain his side of the story.
First, everyone in the universe knows that Perez Hilton is a dramatic person. He makes his living off other people’s drama, and his site is really harsh on a lot of people. The times that something positive is said about someone versus the times something negative is said is about a 1:10 ratio, if not worse. So there may be a bit of karma involved here. But that’s not what’s bothering me.
What’s bothering me is that Perez has been a proponent of gay rights in California, and has written extensively about the “No on 8” campaign and the struggle for the LGBT community to gain equality in the eyes of the law. Yet, in his own video about the confrontation, he relates that he was so upset with Will.i.am’s agressive stance and attitude towards him that he wanted to say “the worst possible thing” to Will.i.am that he could. The thing that would anger Will.i.am the most. I was expecting a racial slur, which would have been terrible. But what he said was just as bad.
Perez said he called Will.i.am a “faggot” and “why are you being so gay”.
This is so disappointing, that a gay man who is allegedly in favor of gay rights and less discrimination and violence toward gays uses the words “faggot” and “gay” towards someone because it was the worst thing he could think of to say.
Perez, I think your self-loathing is showing here. When will you learn that just because you’re a gay man, you don’t have the right to slam out hate speech any more than anyone else does? Using the words “faggot” and “gay” in the context you did DOES make it hate speech. You were hating in that moment, just as you were hating in your video response about the incident. You wanted to hurt Will.i.am, and you chose to hurt an entire community with your slurs against them by making being called “faggot” or “gay” the most unforgivable insult you could think of.
Words mean something, Perez. You may justify what you do for a living as “silly” or just one person’s opinion, but you truly do foster a culture of nastiness and cruelty on your site.
Violence is never the answer, that is correct. Will.i.am did not personally hit you, and there is no indication that he directed someone on his staff to hit you. Whoever hit you is who you should be upset with, and only about the fact you were hit.
Otherwise, the fact that someone finally called you out about the things you say on your website every single day, 24/7/365, is simply karma at work. You cannot continue pumping out as much negativity and misery into the universe and not expect it to come back at you. You just can’t.